Obvious Dating Requirements

I've become aware that I've let people slide on some ethical issues concerning dating. So whenever I date someone again, I will be able to refer them to this blog post, in the case of any confusion about these issues.

1) If you like me enough to sleep with me, and if you think you are having feelings for me, be advised that you will soon introduce me to your parents, and closest friends, and ANY AND ALL ex boyfriends you may still be "friends" with. I will allow you to get through all this at your own pace, but please know AND ACKNOWLEDGE that it will be one of my priorities. If you won't introduce me to your loved ones and ex's that you're still "friends" with, please know that I'm just sleeping with you, and that you can't expect anything more out of me. I don't care what your excuse is. Parade me around your life in front of everyone, or just shut up and take your clothes off. This will apply within a few weeks after we have the "talk" and decide we are going to date exclusively. You must say yes to this unconditionally with no exceptions.

2) If I tell you I don't like the chemistry you're having with your new male friend, you must immediately cut him off, unless there is money involved. Again, this only applies to you if you're trying to date me or get anything out of me other than sex. NO NEW FRIENDS is how I say it. You don't need more male friends. I uphold this policy for my girlfriends, and expect the same in return. Including when you're drunk. No excuses, ever. If there is money involved, I may tolerate a new male friend in your life, but you have to be pretty much all over me in front of any man I notice you have chemistry with.

3) CHEER ME ON in my projects and endeavors, even if it means you can't see me as often as you'd like. DON'T BE DEAD WEIGHT or baggage for me, or I will drop you immediately. Never whine about the time I spend being creative. CHEER ME ON like you're my fan. I'll do the same for you, as an obvious matter of ethics.

4) UNCHECK AUTO-ARGUE. When a female's auto-argue feature is turned on, it's a turnoff. What the fuck are you talking to me for, if you want to naysay, backtalk and argue in every other conversation? This isn't the Mesa College Debate Team. Shut up and test drive my ideas sometimes. Or go away.

5) DRESS UP FOR ME MORE THAN YOU DRESS UP FOR ANYONE ELSE, except maybe the judge. People can really be idiots about this. It seems obvious to me. The longer I date someone, the MORE I try to dress nice, smell nice etc. Is this hard to figure out?

6) Be professionally standoffish with my male friends, and get to know my female ones. I will reciprocate.

I hope I can show this list to a female someday and have her say "That all sounds right to me! I expect the same so I'll do all that for you!"

In short:
1) Introduce me to everyone.
2) No new male friends(unless money is involved).
3) Cheer me on.
4) Stop pointless arguing.
5) Dress up for me.
6) Don't get too close to my male friends.

It's not rocket science, people...

In case you're wondering if I'm a chauvanist, I'm not. I want a woman to have her own things going on that have nothing to do with me. I want a woman to be healthy, empowered, free...... and very into me, and very into showing it.

PHANTOGRAM

This is the best music I've heard in a long time. Here is a video made by a fan. Their album, "Eyelid Movies," is the perfect soundtrack for when you're alone, and lonely. It reaches you without making you more bummed out. Get it, and go see Phantogram with someone special if you are lucky enough to have them come to your town. They play early Thursday night at House of Blues in San Diego.

Lecture On the Origins, Features, Attributes, and Functions, and Inherent Poisonous Qualities of, Self-Indulgence

You may need one. Hit me up, it can be arranged.

Dear American Woman,

I have heard many times in the past that I'm arrogant, controlling, and critical. These insightful evaluations of my personality come from people who do things that are waaaay beyond my personal boundaries. Hence the criticism.

I'm older now, and have been studying uhhmerican shallowness since I was a young boy. I've got some salt in me, and my experience hasn't just been at face value, I've been digging philosophically and analyzing YOU for over 30 years.

I truly respect your individual rights, needs, and desires. No matter who you are. But, if you do certain things, I'm going to see that you're selfish, inconsiderate, reckless, and fake. If I yell at you for doing/saying certain things, I ASKED YOU POLITELY THE FIRST COUPLE TIMES but somehow you remain... the un-teachable, shallow, selfish ummerican woman. These qualities SUCK at any age. I don't care what anyone thinks about my tendency to date younger than my age. Willingness to learn, respect, and ethical compassion and patience are sexy on a woman of any age. Too bad so many of you say "yes" to self development and then go right back to imprinting your mind with alcohol and TV. Am I arrogant because I'm overly critical of crappy normal people that smile pretty at first and try to seem nice? Nope. That's just me calling you out for being an asshole. If I am taking your personal inventory in a mean way, it's because you've had many warnings not to piss me off. I always do it this way... Imply, ask politely, heart to heart, then stern recommendation, then flatly stating my problem, then ultimatums, then YELLING. If I get to the end of this process with you, it's because part of me wants you to LEAVE ME ALONE, part of me really thinks you are that nice person I met in the beginning, and part of me still wants to be physical with you.

To the women that have enormous emotional requirements, but can't say what exactly they want from a man.... Please go bother someone else with your bottomless pit of need, and work on your list of WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT SPECIFICALLY so you're not always crying and bugging your man for NOTHING IN PARTICULAR.

To the women that demand 100 percent from a man, but are only giving 90 percent because they're saving some secret little piece of their hearts for IMAGINARY PRINCE CHARMING.... you're hurting yourself and your man, and you're trapped in a hell without knowing it. I pity you, but not if you fooled me at the beginning and made me think you were a gentle person of substance. If that's the case, I'm disgusted by you. Fuckin 90 percent-ers. Thanks ummerican christian society for programming our daughters to behave this way... Thanks women for being suckers for the man's programming... how can you feel about yourselves?

To the women that are unsafe with their bodies... HOW IGNORANT ARE YOU? It only takes a few easy steps to keep your inside and outside free of bacteria, viruses, and toxic chemicals sold to you by the man. I am a fucking NINJA about health, and am very public about this. If you're talking to me in any sort of intimate way, YOU HAVE ALREADY HEARD ALL THIS and must heed my words or go away. If you rub yourself all over doorknobs, trash cans, and other people that are doing the same thing, don't expect me to feel safe touching you. Americans are all IGNORANT GERM COOKERS, programmed to be this way by the bomb and pharmaceutical companies that own the media. I am here to teach you about this. If you think I'm arrogant, it's because my urgency about this topic SUPERCEDES YOUR LAZINESS AND COMPLACENCY. I'm not arrogant, you're lazy and scared to take advice from a confident man. Ninjas must be ever vigilant about ALL forms of attack, including biological. I can get you up to speed on controlling the germs in your life in a day or two, with almost no money or effort on your part. If this doesn't sound good to you, you're complacent and reckless. In which case I don't need to date you, chase you, or even talk to you. I'm not a germ freak, I'm a germ KILLER. If you aren't down to take a couple basic, easy steps to control germs, how can I let you touch my face... kiss me... etc...

To the women that are un-teachable... To the women that hear my words, say 'ok,' and then behave like it was never said... You're gonna hear me yelling at you eventually. I WANT YOU TO LISTEN, AND APPLY WHAT YOU'VE HEARD TO YOUR BEHAVIOR IN REAL TIME, IN A WAY THAT I CAN SEE YOU'RE MAKING AN EFFORT AT LEAST. If you hear my words and don't heed... I WANT YOU TO GO AWAY OR CHANGE, THAT'S WHY I'M BEING MEAN. Somehow, many women think there is SOME 3RD ALTERNATIVE OR CHOICE HERE... Nope. When I am reduced to yelling at you because you've offended my ethics multiple times, there's no more room for negotiation. Make an effort to start changing, or GO AWAY. Those are your only options at that point. There will be no more pretty smile stringing me along until the next time you let me down.

To the women that are un-teachable... To the women that hear my words, say 'ok,' and then behave like it was never said... You're gonna hear me yelling at you eventually. I WANT YOU TO LISTEN, AND APPLY WHAT YOU'VE HEARD TO YOUR BEHAVIOR IN REAL TIME, IN A WAY THAT I CAN SEE YOU'RE MAKING AN EFFORT AT LEAST. If you hear my words and don't heed... I WANT YOU TO GO AWAY OR CHANGE, THAT'S WHY I'M BEING MEAN. Somehow, many women think there is SOME 3RD ALTERNATIVE OR CHOICE HERE... Nope. When I am reduced to yelling at you because you've offended my ethics multiple times, there's no more room for negotiation. Make an effort to start changing, or GO AWAY. Those are your only options at that point. There will be no more pretty smile stringing me along until the next time you let me down.

Notice me sayin it twice? If you're like the selfish and dense people that have offended me in recent years, you probably didn't notice. TAKE MY WORDS SERIOUSLY - THE FIRST TIME - AND SAVE YOURSELF THE TEARS THAT COME WHEN I LOSE PATIENCE WITH YOUR LACK OF RESPECT.

About a woman's needs... I can stroke your body and mind to great heights of pleasure. (ninja sex haha) I will try this out with you for a while to see if we like each other's style. If I'm complaining about your actions but I'm still sleeping with you, you're at the tail end of a relationship you can potentially save... MAKE AN EFFORT TO HEED MY WORDS AND CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR IN REAL TIME, OR GO AWAY...

I'm not arrogant. I have a very detailed knowledge of myself, and you. I won't tolerate your lies, shallowness, disrespect or scary habits.

I'm really really gentle... if I think you care, and are making an effort. If I'm not gentle with you, it's because you've shown me you aren't into changing your behavior and habits but YOU'RE STILL AROUND BUGGING ME FOR SOMETHING. Just leave a man alone if you aren't into honoring his boundaries and ethics. By honoring, I mean STOP SAYING THOSE CRAPPY THINGS. STOP BEING SELFISH AND SHALLOW, AND BE CONCERNED WITH HOW A MAN'S FEELINGS CAN BE HURT... IN REAL TIME MOMENT-TO-MOMENT APPLICATION. I don't want a 'YES, OK'... I want the crappy behavior and habits to disappear.

When you say and do crappy things, while still trying to maintain a hold on me... expect to feel my anger and be hurt by it.

I'm supposed to be compassionate right? ENFORCING MY ETHICS IN REAL TIME is part of my compassionate path actually. I don't follow YOU around, it's you that follows ME around. Honor my ethics at all times, be gentle, considerate, and respectful in word, thought and deed, when I'm with you and when I'm not... or BEGONE.

Side-Saddle Steampunk Rotary Machine

If you've seen previous incarnations of this machine, it's not the same as its relatives. This machine will be mass produced after 3 or 4 other models are mass produced. It bogs down better than any coil machine. Yup I said it. It has the unnerving precise bog down of the Swashdrive, but is much gentler. More on this later....

A letter from Adam at Synergy Raw Bakery

Hi - Synergy Raw Bakery will be going out of business Wed Dec 30 If you have time, keep reading about our plans, partnership possibilities, and sale details. * Whats going on? Two years ago I decided to build a little vegan place in PB to continue to spread that personal healthy vibe but also to bring awareness to the plight of the animals in a subtle way. Hopefully Synergy has done that for the many tourists and visitors that came in from time to time. For you regular supporters of Synergy and you readers of my long-winded letters, hopefully Synergy has helped you to move towards your goals as well. Almost every day I am at Synergy I get thanked for the store being there. I hear stories of people who turned vegetarian/vegan, who turned raw to cure a disease, those who believe in animal rights and gained a new sense of awareness. Hopefully the healthy vibe and the animal rights messages will be spread by those who benefitted from Synergy to all those that it could not reach. The country and the world are moving towards this eco-lifestyle. We are still on the cutting edge and some of us will get cut trying to make a noticeable change in the world but as a group this vegan movement is still strong and growing. For now... McWendyKings 1 Synergy 0 It would be great if Synergy could survive on its own but it unfortunately cannot. It kept moving forward albeit slowly and many people liked it so I personally kept it going. But it just takes too much of my time and money to keep it going and I cannot continue to affect my other businesses. Good Mood Food I know many of you love our Good Mood Food gourmet vegan meals, desserts and dressings. Thank you so much for your support. Rest assured that our Good Mood Food company has been in existence for 7 yrs and is doing well. We have about 30 products in many stores like Whole Foods, Mothers Markets, Lassens etc. from San Diego, Orange County, L.A., to Ventura County and we are continuing to expand. I liked having our own Synergy store being the only place to get Good Mood Food in the area but after I close Synergy, Good Mood Food and another brand that we are about to launch will be more available throughout San Diego. Starting next week Good Mood Food will be available at our sister company Nature's Express/Vegolution in Hillcrest. I will send out a letter in the next few weeks with more San Diego locations. GTs Synergy/Kombucha Also, people have asked if we are part of GT's Kombucha/Synergy company. Nope. I just named the store Synergy. There are actually a lot of businesses named Synergy like Synergy Chiropractic etc. But the funny part came when their distributor came across my store and asked me to be a San Diego distributor for GT's Synergy drink. So I started selling the Kombucha / Synergy to a bunch of other businesses around the area and will continue to do so. * ONE LAST CHANCE FOR A PARTNER: I really do like the store we built together and cannot give it my full attention to take it to the next level. There are certain things that would take it over the hump and make it thrive such as: - offering a service like accupuncture, bodywork, facials, personal yoga studio etc. - offering a completely different self-created product line in addition to our food and some of the existing products - possibly a kitchen but there is little space and a lot needs to be changed like the electric, plumbing etc. - possibly one dedicated volunteer that is self-funded. I tried to run Synergy with multiple volunteers but that never seemed to work so I stopped asking for that help. Thank you to all that helped and to those that offered. - maybe something else that i cannot think of - I am open to suggestions. I am open to partnering with someone to keep Synergy going. My goal all along was to get it profitable and to give half of it to someone to run it with the other half's profits going to charity. I would still love to see that. Although I am at the end of my lease, I have lease extension options built in for 5 years if I want them at a good rent as I put a lot into building the store. The rent will go up to normal Garnet Ave prices I am sure once I leave. I also have all the machinery, frigs, stock etc. and Good Mood Food/Natures Express and GT's as a backbone to the store. BUT, I can only offer a little money or time to Synergy so I would need a dedicated self motivated partner. I believe the best way to make the store work is to offer a service like accupuncture/facials etc. If I only had Synergy and wanted to keep it under my direction, that is what I would do. So if you want to do something like that, if you have always wanted to be part of a vegan store or this eco movement, I am sure this will be the easiest way to get involved. If you have your own product line or have a service that you offer lets talk NOW. There can be no delay on this. I have had a lot of people come to me with ideas over the years and I expect some will come to me now and I will need to spend some time considering them. My time is so limited and Dec 30 is going to come quickly so contact me RIGHT NOW if you have an idea. * SHORT-TERM Synergy Closing Plans - SALE: You guessed it... BIG SALE on mainly non-food items. Once we are out, we are out... This will be your cheapest holiday presents for sure. - Hemp, Bamboo and Organic Cotton clothing is now less than my cost...honest. Like $10 for Org. Cotton shirts etc. I have half of my stock in another store and I will bring it back soon for Synergy. - Metaphysical items lower than my cost as well. - Some food items will be reduced but I am vegan and don't mind having a big supply for myself so only some will be reduced. * LONGER TERM PLANS - I will probably open a Good Mood Food store/restaurant fairly soon. I know... what am I thinking? Why not just keep Synergy? Well, after being in PB for two years and seeing the party side of PB and that vibe that I never knew existed for some reason, I just don't think it is the right place for a dedicated vegan store to thrive. As I said, it needs a service etc. But I believe I can get it to work as it is somewhere else. - Online presence. As soon as I have a chance I will be improving our online presence with an online store and deliveries. I have wanted to do this for a while. - New brand launch: We are shooting to launch our additional new brand in January. This will include a host of vegan and raw items. More on this later. * Hours Right now we are at Mon 11-8, Tues-Thurs 3-8, Fri and Sat 11-8. I will probably keep to those hours until the end but if you are coming from a long distance you may want to call the store 858-490-2144 as I get pulled in other directions sometimes. I also check this email and will respond daily. We also have the holidays coming up and I will close for a couple days around them. I am personally in the store on Saturdays 11-8 so please stop by if you have a chance and say hi. I want to thank everyone that has helped Synergy over the years. Adam

Mickey Avalon at 4th and B

Jeez... Where do I start? The opening bands had such terrible sound, I couldn't tell if they were any good! They seemed like they were terrible though. There were perhaps 60 people total in this 2000 person venue. Mickey Avalon actually did perform, which was surprising. Since there was no vibe and no people, Mr. Avalon wasn't that into it. As an audiophile and party fan, I was offended and had to leave. The warehouse party we went to afterwards was much better! Don't see Mickey Avalon unless you get in free and get really smashed. He is all packaging and hype...

Side-Saddle Steampunk Rotary Machine

The new Special Technique. Side-Saddle R0tary Machines. Half done.

Imaginary City

In my mind there is an imaginary San Diego or some other city, where people care about respecting themselves and each other. In this dream city, men and women care enough about respecting life to SPEAK EACH OTHERS' LANGUAGE.

In my imaginary city, people don't lead each other on with HALF TRUTHS and CONCEALING THEIR REAL INTENTIONS. People just say what their agenda is, in the nicest way possible.

In this land of make believe in my head, people are more concerned about making an effort to change the world than they are concerned about the mall, ALCOHOL, television, and video games.

In the city in my mind, people just automatically know that alcohol is THE GOVERNMENT'S FAVORITE WAY TO MAKE US WEAKLINGS, and they naturally use alcohol in stern moderation. These imaginary people also know they can have fun without drinking alcohol.

In this imaginary city, everyone is NATURALLY OFFENDED by new plastic, and burning oil, and everyone tries to keep these to a minimum.

These imaginary people all feel like they have a purpose, because they feel connected to each other. So it's just natural for them to find their place, and be fulfilled.

Sometimes, I feel so sad about the shallowness and selfishness of people in this world, that I wish I could go to the imaginary one.

I would want to come back, to bring some friends along... but then again, I know there would be no coming back...